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At home

Home in the woods.

Things are different.

Bear and I miss the Bob-a-lu cat something fierce.

I took the “just get it over with quickly” approach to Bob’s stuff and closeted it all away. I don’t think there is a right answer to this…I could look at it and miss him or look at where all the stuff should be and miss him. None of it is him so I put it away.

And while I was about it, I put the A/C units away also.

It was gorgeous, yesterday (Saturday) and barely hit 70F.

This morning, it was a wonderfully brisk 46F.

But. We are to have a warm week with a forecast change to Fall next weekend. Still, it is September 1 and we are down to 11 hours of daylight and a lower on the horizon sun path so it gets harder for it to get miserably hot. I hope – I’ve had it with hot.

While we were away, there were 2 big storms. They included a LOT of wind. A photo of the yard really doesn’t show how much of a mess it was and some of it still is.

I’ve been working at the cleanup between 5:45 and 6:15 a.m. – to avoid the yellow jackets. I’ve had it with them, also.

I need to go up on the roof and at least get those big branches. I’d like to take the blower and clear the needles. We’ll see. I might wait until we get a hard frost for the blowing part. More needles will come down anyway. I can procrastinate. I can avoid looking at the roof. Maybe it will snow on the roof and then I won’t be able to see all of the needles…that is a happy thought!!

The herbies…more happy thoughts! My dear neighbors picked them up and kept them on their front porch and watered them. And delivered them back to me. The herbs look wonderful. They look like they did not miss me at all. Thank you, neighbors!

At home.

We’re home

I had an opportunity to drive home this morning and I took it.

Bear and I, in Wild Thing, departed the campground at 7:00 a.m. on the dot!

A big orange sun in the sky and in our hearts.

We’re home.

Back in Great Falls

Wild Thing is once again parked in Great Falls. We are in a different spot but still near the back of the park and easy access to the Nature Trail walk to the teepee and beyond.

Again we have a foilage buffer between us and neighbors.

Boy…Helena did NOT agree with Bear or me.

Below, taken at 5:10 p.m. …. I think it tells the story. We are relieved and glad to be here.

I drove the 94 miles over a longish lunch hour, working a few hours this morning and arriving in time for an afternoon work session.

During the work session, it got dark, the wind blew, thunder, lightning, the power went out!!!

But I am all about batteries: laptop, mobile hotspots – I finished the work session without a blip!

Fortunately, the whoosh of wind, etc. lowered the temperature so I did not need to fire up the genset but I was very glad when the power came back. A quick call to the park office and I was told that the entire east side of Great Falls had gone black. Thankfully, it didn’t take long to restore…just shy of 2 hours.

Wild Thing’s refrigerator changed over to propane so the wine was cold!!!

I think Bear is ready to be home.

I am ready to be home.

We are paid through Saturday morning as I hope that Bob’s ashes will be available to come with us, but if not, I have already paid for them to be shipped. Still, I would like to have them and all of us home together.

It still feels like the world has tilted on its axis. Disconcerting. As many times as I’ve lived through a loss event, it never gets easier. In fact, it gets more difficult.

BUT.

I keep the “BIG ORANGE SUN” of Bob’s love in my heart and mind.

And I work on living. To give in to less robs me and Bear of the joy of today. I absolutely know that neither Bob nor Karl nor Gus nor Zack would want anything other than joyful memory and joyful life.

Back in Great Falls.

Helena, MT mornings

I’ve been up early – even earlier than my norm. Monday, my plan was to make a quick and early stop at Wal-Mart, then a drive past a rural house I saw on the internet, arriving at a bar/restaurant reputed to have a good breakfast – close to its 8:00 a.m. opening.

I stopped at Bob’s Market to take the photo. I am partial to sunlit clouds and think of them as direct communication from God…some people think rainbows, a past church acquaintance thought streetlights that flickered out… anyway, for me, it is sunlit clouds.

I don’t actually get a detailed message, I just feel the connection and the peace.

The Wal-Mart run was brief and successful.

The drive to the house was mixed, but interesting and ultimately pretty but I never saw the house. Google Maps Navigation has been wonderful, except for this route and I finally gave up and headed for the breakfast spot – arriving about 8:40 and it was getting warm and no shade parking so we came home.

This morning, Tuesday, the plan was “Steve’s Cafe” – highly rated. It WAS very good and shade parking, although I was there about 7:30 – still, I felt better about leaving Bear in the Jeep and I had a table where I could see him.

I also fueled the Jeep and scouted the Costco parking lot for a hoped for 10:00 a.m. run…that all worked also.

Wild Thing is loaded. Neither Bear nor I will go hungry. Tomorrow morning we head back to Great Falls. No, I have no explanation, it is just what I want to do. I think we’ll head home on Saturday, but all plans are subject to change.

This morning, as we headed to breakfast…a red sunrise and again, sunlit clouds.

A Big Orange Sun

I have received such wonderful words… by email and phone.

Thank you, dear friends.

But, some very special and oh, so helpful words and thoughts came today from dear Margaret in Greece.

She wrote:

Today I couldn’t help thinking of Mr Bob and the image in my mind was of a big, orange sun. His warmth spread across oceans to another continent and stole into my heart. His life was full, his company, the best. You made all the right decisions – his quality of life was the important thing.

Those words, the mind’s eye image, came just when I needed it.

I was ready for my work meeting with half an hour to go and suddenly the grief hit and I just wanted to crawl into bed.

But, these words, the image, the love and the goodness of Bob…

This evening, the universe agreed and as Bear and I had our evening walk…

A big Orange Sun: Mr. Bob’s LOVE…. across the world.

Staying put

Bear and I are staying put…

Funny to show a photo of a teepee, the ultimate nomad home, with a “staying put” title???

Well, we are on the road but for the moment, staying put.

I do NOT move Wild Thing if I am less than 100% and I am less than 100% and know that it is best to just stay put.

And I do not want to go back to the house.

I spoke to my neighbors. It is smoky. The yellow jackets are still around in abundance. I would have to face that house without Bob and I am not ready for that.

We, Bear and I, are comfortable in this spot. We have wonderful places to walk and good facilities.

I am paid until Sunday.

Tentatively, we will move to Helena for next week and I’m considering the following month in Dillon, Montana.

I have a work deadline tomorrow. I am in pretty good shape to meet the deadline. Work is a good distraction.

Meanwhile, Bear and I will stay put and start the process of learning to live our current existence without Bob.

RATS!

I hate this! I really hate this.